I find that we don’t have to be identical to mesh. I’m one of those “opposites attract” kinds of people, and I’m way more interested in ways a person is different from me than the other way around. But I think I like being different from a person as long as we have a common ground. This is true even now. This girl, for example, is very opposite of me in little ways. But I feel like our ground is our past acquaintance with each other, an appreciation of the macabre, and a poetic/intelligible way of expressing things. I don’t care what else about us contradicts or varies.
With others I have found this to be true. With one particular person, we have this base of humour and reading and writing and being able to hold conversation pleasantly. Those are things to fall back on. But I also like that we are knowledgeable in different topics, because there is so much I know nothing about. People who are the opposite of you will give you lots of perspective to consider. They kind of open you up, you know? And I love that about meeting/talking/loving people. That I can become better versed in areas of his/her interest just by what they share.Things like that.
I think this is why diversity has always meant so much to me. I didn’t really come to a proper understanding of myself until I was among so many people unlike me. It’s great to have a community feel, to know people who look like you and think like you, who understand your experiences, agree with your beliefs, and share your interests. The feeling of belonging is lovely but there’s no adventure in it.
I’m always heavily drawn to people who are everything I’m not. Sometimes they remind me of what I wish I was. Sometimes they don’t. I’m curious just the same.
(3 weeks ago)